60 Seconds to a Happier Wavelength. Guaranteed.

Think You Can’t Control Your Mood? See if this Resonates…

Rainbow-Wave-Length

I think about happiness as a radio frequency that you can tune yourself to follow, just like a radio station. When you don’t like the sounds you hear, you can change the dial until you find something that resonates. Resonates.

When unappealing tones emanate from external sources, like other people or your surrounding environment, or when those unpleasant sounds emerge from internal sources, such as negative self-talk, you can change that tune.  Change. Your tune.

“But what if I can’t change my circumstances,” you ask?  Ah, but you can. Maybe not the facts. Or the people. Or the pain. But you can change the meaning you assign to those things. It is the label you place on your experience that determines its impact. Consider holocaust survivor and pioneering positive thinker, Viktor Frankl, who said,

“Everything can be taken from a man or woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Ah hah! The worst-conceivable things can be happening around and near and to me, and yet I get to choose what those things mean to me. I get to choose how I tune myself into my world.

A favorite positive thinker I follow, who goes by the pen name, “Cast Light,” said in a brief article today,

What you look for you will find. So if you’re looking for something to complain about or someone to talk about, there will be plenty to find. Cynicism, complaint and negativity are easy and decrease our capacity to see beauty and blessings. Adventure into joy every day.

Isn’t that cool – using adventure as a verb? An action you choose for yourself. To adventure. An action that transports you to a wavelength of joy.

When really connecting with someone interesting, have you ever said to yourself, “Wow, we’re on the same wavelength.”  Think about that word for a moment — “wavelength.” Sharing a similar rhythm. Aligning your experiences. Being in the same moment.

What power we have!

Here’s an experiment to try.

I’m confident that this 60-second exercise will either resonate with an already-happy mood if you have one, or begin to change your mood wavelength toward a positive direction. Whether it works or not, I’d like to connect with you to learn how you respond.  The experiment is simple:

1. Ask yourself how happy you feel at this moment on a 1-10 scale (10 = very happy).

2. Take 60 seconds to view this “Happiest Facts of All Time” article from Buzzfeed and Reddit.

3. Come back to my site and post your thoughts, along with any change to your happiness rating that resulted from viewing the Happiest Facts article.

If your mood wavelength hasn’t budged upward, even a smidge, I’ll send you a quarter in the mail.

What have you got to lose?

Safety to Fail (again)

To err is human; to forgive, divine. – Alexander Pope

Forgiveness is a gift that costs nothing.

There is tremendous power in forgiveness. We pardon mistakes or wrong choices of others as a means of growing, healing, learning and moving on. The power of forgiveness has long been documented. Think of the role it plays in self-esteem, interpersonal relations, philosophy, sports, child-rearing, education, and law.  Forgiveness brings closure and resolution. Forgiveness frees us to make better choices next time.

So, where does forgiveness fit into training and leadership?

There is no greater learning opportunity than the chance to take a risk, or to make a decision that carries the risk of failing. When we provide a safe environment in which people can try, fail, and try again, we open up a world of learning opportunities.

How have you incorporated forgiveness into your training and leadership? Please share your thoughts below.

Susan Hendrich

leadership elastic …now that’s fantastic!

Leadership Elastic …Now that’s Fantastic!

I love this article by WordPress blogger, LeadershipFreak:

Stretched, Not Crushed

Every time things start going wrong we look to the leader for solutions. Beware! The pressure to provide solutions crushes leaders. When solutions come from the top, organizations crumble from the bottom.

A C-level leader recently said, “When I wake up stressed out over problems in the night, I know I’ve forgotten it’s about the team. Things go better when I include others.”

Stretching others: Leaders who can’t ask people to do hard things can’t get hard things done. Meaningful contributions require deep commitment and effort. Weak leaders assume others can’t or won’t step up. They rule out before they ask.

Ruling out: That’s too hard for them. Making it easy prevents people from stepping up. Give people the opportunity to do hard things. I’m not suggesting you intentionally make things hard for others.

  1. They already contribute so much. Translation, they can’t make meaningful contribution in new areas.
  2. They wouldn’t be interested.
  3. They’re too valuable where they are. If anyone says that to you, update your resume’.

The big ask: The big ask is about values before programs. Programs, methods, and techniques are small things when compared with the power of shared values. Align shared values before making the big ask.

It’s the team:

Carrying the load alone crushes;
carrying the load together stretches.

Shared values are magnetic; they pull people together. Success is always about people before it’s about programs and initiatives. People committed to shared values make deep commitments to each other. Connections sustain and energize when things get hard. Blame separates and defeats.

How do you ask others to do hard things?

What should be in place before you ask for deep commitments?

via Stretched not Crushed, by LeadershipFreak

Story Spines Can Inspire Change

Once Upon a Time, You Created Change…

Storytelling has long been a vehicle for creating a journey of the imagination, a journey in which a transformation happens. In his March 2012 Fast Company article, “Using Great Storytelling To Grow Your Business,” Kaihan Krippendorff writes about how to use effective storytelling to drive change and growth in an organization. He references a tool called a Story Spine, which is a simple bunch of sentence stems that provide the skeleton for building a story. The Story Spine is a tool developed by Kenn Adams as a way for improvisers (actors who work without a script) to build a classic story.

The basic Story Spine structure

Once there was…
And every day…
Until one day…
And because of that…
And because of that…
And because of that…
Until finally…
And so…

Optional ending line: The moral of the story is…

Sound familiar? Many fairy tales and children’s stories, as well as novels and movies,  fit in this story structure. Elegant & easy! So, what if we could use story spines to map out a vision for changing ourselves? Simple genius! Here’s a great Harvard Business Review article that guides us on using Story Spines to craft a vision for changing our own circumstances: http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/07/a_simple_exercise_to_help_you.html.

Bonus Freebie

There are hundreds of possible Story Spine variations, and here’s one:

  • [The balance]: Once upon a time … and every day …
  • [The un-balance]: But then one day …
  • [The quest for a resolution]: … and because of that … and so … until finally ….
  • [The new balance]: … and ever since that day ….

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Your Turn

Now, how will you use a Story Spine to create change in your own life? Share your thoughts in a comment here!