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Agility and the Unlit Candle

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A story of disruption, resilience, and that unexpected moment when life forces you to pivot into a new version of yourself.

This video previews “Agility” on Human Being with Dr. Susan – Episode 7. Aired 11/21/25 on Sandcastle Radio, America’s Hottest Online Variety and Music Station.

Agility and the Unlit Candle: A Personal Story from My Mom

Here’s a personal story about agility—a story from my mom. It’s a story that lives at the center of my family history—my personal history. Years ago, she wrote it down and titled it “The Unlit Candle.” It’s a story about disruption, resilience, and the unexpected moments when life forces you to pivot into a different version of yourself.

1970: A New Start in Delaware
The year was 1970. My parents were brand new to Delaware—young, hopeful, starting out with a baby girl and a handful of dreams. My mom had left her job at the University of Illinois to care for me. My dad had just started his first role as a chemist at DuPont. That’s why they moved to Wilmington. Money was tight. Life was simple, but it was good. My mom planned my first birthday with absolute joy. She baked a beautiful cake, decorated it with balloons and baby toys, and placed one large candle in the center—unlit, waiting for the moment. Family came in by train. They rented chairs for the living room. It felt like the beginning of something.

The Fire
But the morning of the celebration, just before lunch, my dad said, “Hold up. I smell smoke.” He opened the apartment door, and a wall of thick black smoke poured in. In seconds, my mom grabbed me. Everyone ran out barefoot into the sunlit parking lot, watching as the fire department fought flames pouring out of the lower level. That beautiful cake never got sliced. That candle never got lit. Later that day, once the fire was out, they were allowed back in to salvage what they could. Much was destroyed—clothes, keepsakes, their few newlywed belongings. Even the wire hangers were covered in soot and had to be scrubbed by hand. My parents had no renters’ insurance, no safety net—just each other and a baby with a birthday that never happened.

Aftermath and Unexpected Generosity
My parents relocated us to a motel. My grandmother and my aunt went back home. My mother called her family, embarrassed and overwhelmed. My Aunt Judy got on a plane immediately, traveling from Illinois to help. A local professor’s parents opened their ornate home to my parents and the baby—people they’d never met, because generosity has a way of finding people who need it. Eventually, my parents moved into a small bungalow and then into the home they still live in today. One disruption after another, and yet somehow they kept finding the next right move.

The Lesson My Mom Never Wrote
That’s the part my mom never wrote explicitly—but what the story teaches: agility is born in moments you never asked for. The moments where the plan burns down, literally or figuratively, and you’re left standing in the parking lot with nothing but a baby on your hip and a cake you never got to eat.

The Meaning of the Unlit Candle
The unlit candle became more than a story. It became a truth—a celebration that didn’t happen, plans that got erased, a version of life that didn’t survive the smoke. But also this truth: some candles don’t need to be lit to change your life. That day taught my mother—and eventually me—that agility isn’t a personal trait. It’s a response pattern. A willingness to regroup when you’re exhausted, to pivot when you’re heartbroken, to rebuild when you’ve already rebuilt more times than feels fair. It’s the ability to say, “Okay, this isn’t the story we planned, but it’s the story we’re in, and we’ll write the next chapter from here.”

Glimpses of a New Beginning
The unlit candle reminds me that every disruption contains a glimpse of a new beginning—even if you don’t see it at first, even if it’s wrapped in smoke, even if it costs you more than you thought you could bear. My mom survived that season. My parents built a life from those ashes. They restored what they could. They released what they couldn’t. And they kept moving forward.

What Agility Really Looks Like
That is agility. Not glamorous. Not poetic. Not Instagram-worthy. Just steady, human, persistent movement through uncertainty. And sometimes the most powerful symbol isn’t the candle you light—it’s the candle you never got to. I’m proud of my parents. And I think part of my agility comes from that moment when we lost everything in the fire.

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Wishing you glimpses of new beginnings, even when your candle remains unlit.

Susan Hendrich, with special thanks to my amazing Mom, Virginia Hertzenberg

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Gemba Kaizen: Unleash the Power of Continuous Improvement

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Gemba Kaizen: Unleashing the Power of Continuous Improvement

Let’s explore an extraordinary concept that can revolutionize your approach to leadership by focusing continuous improvement—-but not the “big, sweeping changes” kind of leadership. It’s time to unlock the secrets of Gemba Kaizen, a philosophy that empowers leaders to create positive change right where it matters the most – the gemba, the frontline of their organizations.

What is Gemba Kaizen?

Gemba Kaizen is a Japanese term that translates to “continuous improvement at the actual workplace.” It emphasizes the importance of going to the source, observing processes, and collaborating with employees to drive incremental, sustainable improvements. Gemba Kaizen is not just a methodology; it’s a way of thinking and a catalyst for transformative leadership.

Tip 1: Embrace the Gemba:

To harness the power of Gemba Kaizen, leaders must immerse themselves in the gemba. This means stepping out of their “offices” and into the frontline of their organizations. By personally experiencing the realities of the workplace, leaders gain invaluable insights into the challenges faced by their teams and can actively participate in problem-solving. You may have heard this called, “Management By Walking Around,” or MBWA. There’s an added bonus to this kind of leadership. By being present—literally—with your teams, you see firsthand what they face. And they learn to associate your presence with simply being there, rather than, “Oh no, the boss is here, must be something wrong.”

Tip 2: Empower Your Team:

Gemba Kaizen recognizes that the most valuable improvement ideas come from those closest to the work. To foster a culture of continuous improvement, leaders must empower their teams to voice their ideas, concerns, and suggestions freely. Encourage open communication channels and create a safe space for employees to contribute their expertise and creativity. Make it clear that tiny, incremental changes are welcomed and valued. It is these individual stones, after all, that help to construct—and repair—the great castles.

Tip 3: Foster Collaboration:

Leadership is not a solitary endeavor. Gemba Kaizen thrives on collaboration and cross-functional cooperation. Break down silos, encourage departments to work together, and facilitate dialogue between teams. By fostering collaboration, leaders can leverage diverse perspectives and tap into collective wisdom, leading to innovative solutions and improved outcomes. Send ambassadors in from one team to another, encouraging outside-the-usual thinking.

Tip 4: Practice Active Listening:

To be an effective Gemba Kaizen leader, one must be an active listener. Take the time to engage in meaningful conversations with employees at all levels. Listen attentively to their ideas, concerns, and feedback without judgment. By truly hearing what your team has to say, you will uncover invaluable insights that can fuel positive change.

Tip 5: Lead by Example:

Leadership is not about giving orders from the top; it’s about setting the example. Embody the principles of Gemba Kaizen by actively participating in improvement initiatives, supporting problem-solving efforts, and demonstrating a commitment to continuous learning. By leading from the front, you inspire your team to embrace a culture of continuous improvement.

Tip 6: Encourage Experimentation:

Gemba Kaizen thrives on experimentation. Encourage your team to think outside the box, take calculated risks, and test new ideas. Emphasize that failure is an opportunity for learning and growth rather than a setback. By creating a safe environment for experimentation, you foster innovation and unlock the full potential of your team.

Now it’s time to try Gemba Kaizen:

Gemba Kaizen is a transformative approach to leadership that empowers you to make a tangible impact on your organization’s frontline. By embracing the gemba, empowering your team, fostering collaboration, practicing active listening, leading by example, and encouraging experimentation, you can unlock a world of continuous improvement and unleash the true potential of your organization.

Remember, true leadership is not about grand gestures; it’s about the small, incremental improvements made every day. Embrace Gemba Kaizen, and together, let’s create a culture of continuous improvement that propels us toward a brighter, more prosperous future.

Want to learn more about Gemba Kaizen? Try Gemba Kaizen: A Commonsense Approach to a Continuous Improvement Strategy, by Masaaki Imai.

The Pot Roast Principle: Breaking Free from Outdated Traditions

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Why do we do certain things in a particular way? We all have routines, traditions, and practices that we follow without much conscious thought. Often, these habits are deeply ingrained, passed down through generations, or simply adopted because, well, that’s just how it’s always been done.

Grandma's Pot Roast

I had an enlightening conversation with a colleague today about recurrent obstacles. Our team was trying to solve a small but frustrating problem that has persisted for more than a year. As a new member of the team, eager to help, I started thinking about ways to solve the problem. All of my ideas centered on how we can do more. (You know, because that’s how we always solve this problem, by doing more.) My colleague asked me a challenging question that changed my perspective altogether: “What if the problem IS the problem?” In other words, why are we trying to solve this problem in the first place? What if the answer is to do less?

This brings to mind a classic tale, often shared in leadership and organizational development circles: The Pot Roast Story. The story goes something like this:

THE POT ROAST STORY

A young woman is preparing a pot roast, and before placing it in the oven, she carefully cuts off both ends of the roast. Her husband, observing this, asks her why she does it. She thinks for a moment and replies, “That’s how my mother always did it.” Intrigued, the husband then asks her mother, who gives the same answer: “That’s how my mother always did it.”

Finally, they decide to ask the grandmother, the original source of the culinary tradition. With a twinkle in her eye, the grandmother explains, “Because my roasting pan was too small!”

A Simple Story with Profound Implications

The pot roast story, while seemingly trivial, offers a powerful metaphor for many aspects of our lives, both personal and professional:

  • Unquestioned Assumptions: How many of our processes, procedures, or even beliefs are based on assumptions that are no longer valid, or perhaps never were? We often operate on “that’s how we’ve always done it” without ever asking “why?”
  • The Power of Tradition: Traditions can be wonderful, offering comfort, connection, and a sense of history. However, when traditions become rigid and unquestioned, they can stifle innovation and prevent us from finding more efficient or effective ways of doing things.
  • The Importance of Curiosity: The husband’s simple question, “Why?”, is the catalyst for uncovering the truth. Curiosity is a vital trait, encouraging us to explore, challenge the status quo, and seek deeper understanding.
  • Adapting to Change: The grandmother’s reason highlights the need to adapt. Her original method was a practical solution to a specific problem (a small pan). Over time, circumstances change, and our methods should evolve accordingly. Are we still cutting off the ends of our “pot roasts” when our “pans” are now much larger?
  • Leadership and Critical Thinking: In a leadership context, this story is a potent reminder to encourage critical thinking within teams. Are we fostering an environment where people feel comfortable asking “why?” Are we regularly reviewing our processes to ensure they are still relevant and efficient?

Breaking Free from the “Pot Roast” Mentality

So, how can we avoid falling into the “pot roast” trap?

  1. Ask “Why?”: Before blindly following a process, take a moment to understand its origin and purpose. Is it still serving its original function?
  2. Challenge the Status Quo: Don’t be afraid to question established norms. Just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the best way.
  3. Encourage Inquiry: Foster a culture where curiosity is valued, and asking questions is encouraged, not seen as a challenge.
  4. Embrace Adaptability: Be willing to let go of old methods when new, better solutions emerge.
  5. Seek the “Grandmother’s” Wisdom: Sometimes, the most valuable insights come from those who have been around the longest and understand the historical context. But even then, apply critical thinking to their insights!

The pot roast story is more than just a charming anecdote; it’s a powerful lesson in critical thinking, adaptability, and the importance of questioning the unquestioned. By taking the time to understand the “why” behind our actions, we can unlock greater efficiency, foster innovation, and ensure we’re not just cutting off the ends of our pot roast for no good reason.

What “pot roast” traditions are you ready to examine in your own life or work? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

The Trust Equation: “I don’t care what you know until I know that you care”

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Trust: Unlock the Secrets of Human Connection

Trust is fundamental to our connection with others, underpinning every successful relationship, every thriving organization, and every meaningful interaction. Theodore Roosevelt is quoted as coining the phrase, “People don’t care what you know until they know that you care.”

If trust is the bedrock upon which all lasting success is built, how do we build it? How do we maintain it? How do we repair it? I’ve been reflecting on the brilliant work of David Maister, Charles Green, and Robert Galford in their book, “The Trusted Advisor,” and their powerful Trust Equation.

This Trust Equation offers a clear framework for understanding the components of trust.

  • T = Trustworthiness: The outcome we seek.
  • C = Credibility: Do people believe what I say? This isn’t just about technical expertise; it’s about being honest and complete, both intellectually and emotionally. It’s about demonstrating that I understand the facts, but also that I understand the human element.
  • R = Reliability: Do I do what I say I’ll do? It’s the consistent delivery, the repeated experience of promises kept. It’s the bedrock of dependability.
  • I = Intimacy: Can people feel safe sharing their vulnerabilities with me? This isn’t about romantic intimacy, but about emotional closeness and honesty. It’s about creating a space where people feel understood and valued.
  • S = Self-Orientation: This is the denominator, the factor that can erode trust most quickly. Am I focused on myself, or on serving others? Am I listening to understand, or to respond?

What strikes me most about this equation is its simplicity and its profound truth. It highlights that trust is multifaceted. I can be highly credible, but if I’m self-oriented, trust will suffer. I can be reliable, but if I lack intimacy, I’ll never build deep connections. I can be the most transparent (intimate) partner, but if I don’t do what I say I’ll do, trust is shattered.

Why this matters

In a world increasingly driven by transactional interactions, we are at risk of losing sight of the human element. We can forget that people don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it. And they can only truly connect with your “why” when they trust you.

Think about the leaders you admire. They don’t just possess technical skills; they inspire trust. They are credible, reliable, intimate, and they put the needs of others before their own.

How can I apply this in my own life?

  • Focus on others: I must actively listen, ask open-ended questions, and genuinely care about the people I serve.
  • Be consistent: My actions must align with my words. I need to build a track record of reliability.
  • Be vulnerable: I need to share my own struggles and create a safe space for others to do the same.
  • Check my motives: Am I driven by a desire to serve, or by a desire for personal gain?

David Maister’s Trust Equation is a powerful reminder that building trust is an ongoing process. It requires conscious effort and a genuine commitment to serving others.

May we all strive to build organizations and relationships built on trust, where people feel valued, understood, and inspired. Because when we do, we create a world where everyone can thrive.

Want more? Check out this Trust Equation video from the THNK School of Leadership: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXWDl0Vik48

Stepping Away to Step Up: Why Renewal is Your Secret Weapon

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Recharge and Refresh to Enhance Your Impact.

Life can be a whirlwind sometimes. Work deadlines loom, errands pile up, and suddenly it feels like you haven’t taken a real breath in days, weeks, even months. It’s during these times that I find myself craving renewal. Take a deep breath while you think about that word…renewal.

Now, renewal might not sound like the most exciting thing on the to-do list, but hear me out. It’s not about sitting in a bubble bath for thirty minutes (although that has its merits). It’s about consciously choosing to step away from the hamster wheel, even if it’s just for a little while, to come back feeling refreshed and ready to tackle anything.

Think about it. Have you ever tried to write a creative piece when your brain feels like mush? Or tried to have a productive conversation when you’re running on fumes? It rarely ends well. We need time to recharge, refocus, and reconnect with ourselves in order to truly thrive.

Here’s the thing, renewal doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. It can be as simple as:

  • Taking a walk in nature: Immersing yourself in the sights and sounds of the outdoors can be incredibly calming and restorative.
  • Putting your phone down and reading a book: Escaping into a good story can help you de-stress and gain new perspectives.
  • Trying a new recipe: Engaging in a creative activity can spark joy and get your creative juices flowing again.
  • Spending time with loved ones: Connecting with those closest to you provides a sense of belonging and support.

Even small changes to your routine can have a big impact. Instead of scrolling through social media before bed, try some light stretching or reading. Replace your usual commute with a scenic bike ride.

The key is to find what works for you and make it a priority. Remember, renewal isn’t selfish, it’s essential. It’s the key to maintaining your energy, creativity, and overall well-being. So next time you’re feeling burnt out, don’t push yourself further. Step away, recharge, and come back stronger than ever.

I’m heading outside now to breathe in the crisp February air and renew my focus for the week ahead. How will you RENEW?

Susan

p.s. Looking for a book to guide your journey? Check out: Renewal: How Nature Awakens Our Creativity, Compassion, and Joy by Andrés R Edwards