Goals, Gaps, and Gifts: Mentor / Mentee MatchupMagic
An ideal mentor/mentee matchup blends three key elements: Goals, Gaps, and Gifts.
GOALS: Mentor and mentee should have compatible goals and aspirations. For example, if your goal is to become a director, choose a mentor with experience as a director or other leadership role. If you aim to build confidence in delivering presentations, find a mentor who dazzles you when they are on the stage.
GAPS: A good mentor can fill in the gaps in the mentee’s knowledge and experience. For example, if you are new to the industry, choose a mentor who can teach you about the industry and help you develop skills.
GIFTS: Mentor and mentee should have complementary gifts and talents. For example, if you are a creative thinker, choose a mentor who is good at strategic planning and execution. Having complementary skills allows the mentee to see a different way of approaching novel situations.
Think about your own experience as a mentor or mentee. How did your goals, gaps, and gifts intersect?
Every day is a new chance to “ride the elevator” with someone who can change your life by opening a door to your next career opportunity. Are you ready for those few seconds? Do you have your personal brand defined? Can you deliver it in a single statement—-using 8 words or less?
If you yearn for that breakthrough moment that propels you toward your dreams, here is a simple act you can take: Imagine having a laser-focused personal branding message that not only captivates attention but compels action. Can you see yourself confidently sharing your passion, purpose, and value, leaving a lasting impact on anyone you meet? That’s the magic of a well-crafted Personal Brand Story.
To craft an effective personal brand story, follow these steps:
Discover and Reflect: Name your strengths, values, skills, passions, and key experiences. Consider what makes you unique and what you’re truly passionate about. Reflect on your accomplishments and the impact you want to have. Answer questions like:
What do I excel at? What are my strengths?
What are my core values and beliefs?
What am I most passionate about in my work or life?
What problems can I solve or needs can I fulfill?
How have my experiences shaped who I am today?
Define Your Value Proposition: Based on your self-reflection, identify the unique value you bring to the table. Consider how your strengths, skills, and passions align with the needs of your target audience. Your value proposition should succinctly answer questions like:
How can I contribute positively?
What benefits do I provide to others?
What sets me apart from others in my field?
Craft your Statement: Now, it’s time to put it all together into a concise, high-impact statement. Your personal brand statement should be clear, authentic, and memorable. Here’s a formula to guide you:
Adjective + Noun + Action + Impact: Use an adjective to describe yourself, followed by a noun that represents your expertise or field. Then, add an action verb that highlights what you do, and finally, convey the impact or benefit you create.
Here are some examples:
Dynamic Marketing Strategist igniting brands for explosive growth
Expert Storytelling Coach unlocking confidence through onstage magic
Innovative Training Leader driving a high-impact learning culture
Creative Graphic Designer visualizing your best branding
Edit and Refine: Write down multiple versions of your personal brand statement and refine them. Keep it concise, ideally in one sentence. Even better if you can get it to just a phrase or three words. Test it out on friends, mentors, or colleagues to gather feedback. Here’s mine:
Light Shiner: Building leaders by illuminating strengths
Align with Authenticity: Your personal brand statement should authentically represent you and what you stand for. Make sure it resonates with who you are and how you want to be perceived.
Adapt for Different Contexts: Tailor your personal brand statement for different situations. You might have a slightly different version for your LinkedIn profile, resume, elevator pitch, or networking events.
Regularly Review and Update: As you grow and evolve, your personal brand statement may need adjustments. Regularly revisit and update it to ensure it remains aligned with your journey and aspirations.
Remember, your personal brand statement is a dynamic representation of your identity, strengths, and aspirations. It should communicate your unique value and leave a lasting impression on those who encounter it.
Perception can create a self-fulfilling prophecy. The classic leadership book, The One Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson, shaped my leadership approach. They teach the power of Perception. Consider the story of The Monk and the Travellers:
THE MONK AND THE TRAVELLERS
One day a traveller was walking along a road on his journey from one village to another. As he walked he noticed a monk tending the ground in the fields beside the road. The monk said “Good day” to the traveller, and the traveller nodded to the monk. The traveller then turned to the monk and said “Excuse me, do you mind if I ask you a question?”.
“Not at all,” replied the monk.
“I am travelling from the village in the mountains to the village in the valley and I was wondering if you knew what it is like in the village in the valley?”
“Tell me,” said the monk, “What was your experience of the village in the mountains?”
“Dreadful,” replied the traveller, “to be honest I am glad to be away from there. I found the people most unwelcoming. When I first arrived I was greeted coldly. I was never made to feel part of the village no matter how hard I tried. The villagers keep very much to themselves, they don’t take kindly to strangers. So tell me, what can I expect in the village in the valley?”
“I am sorry to tell you,” said the monk, “but I think your experience will be much the same there”.
The traveller hung his head despondently and walked on.
A while later another traveller was journeying down the same road and he also came upon the monk.
“I’m going to the village in the valley,” said the second traveller, “Do you know what it is like?”
“I do,” replied the monk “But first tell me – where have you come from?”
“I’ve come from the village in the mountains.”
“And how was that?”
“It was a wonderful experience. I would have stayed if I could but I am committed to travelling on. I felt as though I was a member of the family in the village. The elders gave me much advice, the children laughed and joked with me and people were generally kind and generous. I am sad to have left there. It will always hold special memories for me. And what of the village in the valley?” he asked again.
“I think you will find it much the same” replied the monk, “Good day to you”.
“Good day and thank you,” the traveller replied, smiled, and journeyed on.
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THE POWER OF PERCEPTION
Tell me how this story impacts you? Does your own perception of situations evolve based on the attitude you bring? Sure makes a difference for me. Choose wisely.
Sometimes a book can change your life. The Four Agreements, by Don miguel Ruiz changed mine.
This international bestseller takes less than an hour read, and provides a simple (not easy) roadmap for releasing long patterns of self-judgment, worry, and self-limiting beliefs.
A chat with a friend today reminded me of Agreement #2, Don’t Take Anything Personally. This compartmentalization work is more than just prioritizing tasks or things to address. It includes working to own “what’s mine” and divesting what’s not. Here’s a snippet on the second agreement: https://www.thefouragreements.com/the-second-agreement-dont-take-anything-personally/
“I could be so successful, if only I had more time…”
Have you ever started the sentence, “If only I had more time…” then finished that sentence with realization that you would fill that extra time with more hassled, stressful tasks that would leave you even more exhausted than you already are?
Time, precious time
Author Harvey Mackay says that time is the one commodity that we can’t reproduce, alter, capture or revisit. We each have the same quantity of time on a given day, day after day. How we use that time makes all the difference.
Think about the Food Network television show, “Chopped,” where several chefs open a mystery box with a tiny window of time and a mission to create fabulous food fare. Invariably, one contestant groans as the clock runs out and Chef Ted shouts, “Time’s up!” The contestant stares at the unfinished dish below and states as if it’s the first time this has ever happened, “I ran out of time” as their reason for not including all of the required ingredients on their plate, or for not cooking their dish to the judges’ satisfaction. Each chef had the same ingredients, the same cooking station, the same pantry, and the same amount of time. Why were the other chefs able to finish on time with the intended delicious outcome, while Joe/Jane Too-Late is standing with a raw slab of pork on the station?
So how to make the most of this precious, limited resource? How do super-successful time managers seem to breeze through tasks and still have time to show up at the kids’ soccer games or catch a concert in the park? Continue reading →